The Battle of the Sexes: What the hell happened?
Monday, October 6, 20088 Comments
Gone are the days where men would fight for the honour of women and where the female form was praised and glorified in all shapes and sizes because of it's ability to give life. Now, it's impossible for me to go through a day without hearing a man call another woman a "bitch" or "whore" or "slut", whether it's on T.V, online or out in public. Men no longer respect a woman's body because of it's miraculous abilities, but degrade it down to something that they have the right to own, use and criticize. This is enraging and of course, unjust. But where did it come from? A lot of women will just jump on the whole "men are dogs" band-wagon, but I truly think the problem is much deeper than the "natural inclinations" excuse that men use now a days.
A lot of it can be blamed on the lack of social constraints. Even a hundred and fifty years ago, there was an ethics code in place to protect the dignity of both men, and women. Go back even further, a man's eyes would be poked out if he "dishonoured" a man's wife by looking and lusting after her openly.
Yes, perhaps huge leaps for women in the political world had not been made at that time, but no one ever talks about the fact that women were huge contributors to society through their contributions and hard labour at home (and if they do, it's with raging condescension). Supporting a good, and I stress the word good, man and raising children into decent citizens is something that was respected and now a days, it's something that is looked down upon, as if a woman actually can't do any good for the family, that her talents are better used in the work force. This is the ridiculousness of the idea right here: Feminism was meant to open the doors for women to choose either, not to take one thing and replace it with another.
But women didn't see that choice, they saw it as an either/or situation and this was devastating. By abandoning the place where they were earning respect and going into an arena where they unfortunately had none, men were left to their own devices about how to treat the new situation. It wasn't pretty and over time, the moral fiber of society has been sucked dry.
So, without this moral fiber of society in place, men were free to indulge in their animal desires, and digressed into a far more barbaric state. They may not be clubbing us over the head and dragging us into bushes, but overall attitudes are no better. Eventually, women decided "well crap, I guess this is just how we are and we have to deal with it". Oh, ladies, how wrong we are. We just stopped holding the bar high enough.
To compound the problem, the more women would complain about "lack of respect", the less they did to try and earn it back. For example, I'm all for dressing to be attractive, but for it's not rocket science to figure out that if you dress like a slut, you'll be treated like a slut. I'm sorry ladies, you cannot have your cake and eat it too. So, of course, men being intelligent creatures just like us, they saw us in our hypocritical state, and they eventually learned to take us less and less seriously.
Not to dog on you great guys out there, we know you exist. Some of us are lucky to have you in our lives, and some of us know we're making it really hard on you to be real men. I am completely, 100% for a woman being into her career, having her right to vote, equal pay, being able to defend herself and provide for herself, of course. But women need to realize that while some of these battles have been won for us (and others continue to be fought) there are other things we need to focus on now, and that is making our men feel like men again.
If any of you have studied the basics in human behaviour, you'll understand the inherent --need-- for a man to be the protector. The provider. The problem solver. That's just what they are. While these linear thinkers no longer have to go out and hunt for days to feed us, it is completely ingrained in them and will never be removed. We just have to accept this and work with it to our mutual advantage.
The funny coincidence is that now a days, women are so used to men being "dogs" because its part of their "inherent nature" that they accept it, but refuse to accept this other, bigger, more important inherent attribute (providing, protecting, etc) because it impedes on them, apparently.
I'm sorry, what?
This means that we're okay with men treating us like degraded whores because "they can't help it" but we won't let them at least help provide for us because it impedes on our feminine freedom?
Does anyone else see something revoltingly wrong with this?!
You might ask yourself, what do we even need men for anymore? We can make our own money, do whatever job we want to do, become ferocious warriors, we can even become pregnant without their help now a days. Men need women for the social networking we're so good at, because without us, later in life, it gets pretty damn lonely. Women can be without a partner, and still be emotionally and socially stable because of her inherent need to network. So not only do we no longer need men for the things they used to be able to do for us, they're actually somewhat screwed without us.
Sorry fellas. I don't think this was an intentional part of our movement.
Our society is filled with guys who either are abusive and disrespectful, kiss way too much ass, or are the really nice guys at heart, but are sweapt up in today's sensationalistic, hedonistic ways. At the same time, we have too many ladies who think that submitting to a loving and caring man is a sign of weakness, but this is just ridiculous.
It takes a strong, smart woman to know when to submit, just as it takes a strong, smart man to know when to take the lead, or when to submit to her. Mutual submission, when done properly and logically, is the best way to formulate gender relations.
Ladies, don't submit to a guy if he's a jackass and doesn't know what's best for you, and what your talents are. Don't be hypocritical by demanding respect for you body and mind when you don't act or behave in ways that warrant it.
Gentlemen, don't submit to a woman who bosses you around all day and never lets you have an opinion about anything. We know it's hard to control those urges, but I guarantee you, you'll get way more attention from the ladies if you behave like a gentleman.
It's time to raise those bars and see what the other sex is made of.